Families with Lesbian or Gay Parents (page 3)

Sexual orientation also did not differ. Children raised by gay or lesbian parents were not more likely to become homosexuals themselves. This finding is particularly interesting in view of the fact that these children received significant portions of their genes from gay or lesbian parents and grew up in environments governed by those same parents. Still, as the children entered adolescence and early adulthood, their sexual fantasies were primarily heterosexual, and they were no more likely than other children to report being homosexual.

Like other children, children of gay or lesbian parents play mostly with same-sex peers. They show no differences in terms of popularity or other social skills. Other research has found no significant differences in sociability, hyperactivity, emotional difficulty, behavior problems, moral maturity, or measures of intelligence. In one study, children with lesbian mothers saw themselves as more lovable, and parents and teachers rated them as somewhat more affectionate, responsive, and protective of younger children than children raised by heterosexual parents (Steckel, 1987).

Lesbian mothers also seem to do a better job of fostering contact between their children and their children's fathers. Children with lesbian mothers are six times more likely to have weekly contact with their fathers than children of divorced and other single heterosexual mothers (Golombok, Spencer, & Rutter, 1983). When heterosexual mothers do arrange visits with fathers, they report significantly more conflict surrounding the visit than do lesbian mothers. Even beyond the fathers, lesbian mothers arrange more visits with other adult males and relatives for their children. This holds true especially when they live in committed relationships with lesbian partners (Kirkpatrick, 1987).

Finally, although courts often award child custody on the condition that the homosexual parent not live with his or her romantic partner, the research evidence actually shows advantages for children whose gay or lesbian parents live with committed partners (Patterson, 1992). One study documented higher self-esteem in daughters of lesbian mothers living with partners than in girls whose lesbian mothers lived alone (Huggins, 1989). We have already mentioned that mothers in lesbian partnerships are more likely to arrange male role models for their children. And in other research, lesbian couples who conceived children by donor insemination showed as much awareness of parenting skills as heterosexual mothers and more awareness than heterosexual fathers, and both lesbian partners were equally involved in the child's activities (Flaks, Ficher, Masterpasqua, & Joseph, 1995; Vanfraussen, Ponjaert-Kristoffersen, & Brewaeys, 2003). In short, the scientific evidence shows that lesbian and gay parents are perfectly capable of providing a healthy and caring environment for raising children.