Helping Teens Make Responsible Decisions (page 2)
Don’t take it personally! As teens gain independence, parents aren’t around much, but they can still provide direction for the choices kids make with their new found freedom.
What You Need to Know
Adolescents need to figure out who they are in relation to everyone else, so challenging parent’s values and practices is as natural as the hormones racing through them. They need their parents to support and guide, but not dictate. The more controlling parents are, the more rebellious teens can be.
How You Can Help
Tips from health care professionals include:
- Ask and Listen. Initiate a conversation and let your child speak. When your teen wants to attend a school dance, ask, “What’s the school policy about kids who come drunk?”
- Develop alternatives. Have options for avoiding common pitfalls. When your kid comes home reeking of smoke, tell her to text you next time, and you’ll pick her up and head for a treat.
- There’s always consequences. Make sure that your teen knows and understands the probable results of projected decisions. Your doctor’s office and school counselor should have accurate facts.
- Let go. If your teen decides on a path, and you don’t agree, as long as it’s not hurtful or dangerous, let her do it. Your daughter rescinds her acceptance of an invitation to go out with other people, and you disagree, but let her discover the fallout.
- The results please. After your child carries out the decision, follow up with questions. At breakfast the next morning, ask your daughter if she enjoyed her outing or might have had more fun with her original plans.
For more information, please see the full article:
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- Kindergarten Sight Words List
- Signs Your Child Might Have Asperger's Syndrome
- Child Development Theories
- GED Math Practice Test 1
- 10 Fun Activities for Children with Autism
- Social Cognitive Theory
- Why is Play Important? Social and Emotional Development, Physical Development, Creative Development
- The Homework Debate
- Problems With Standardized Testing