The Vital Effect of Caregiver Attachment
The Most Important Relationship. How child’s future relationships are guided by their parental connection.
What You Need To Know
Children base their future relationships – how to behave and what to expect – on their caregivers. Here are some caregiving relationship types which can damage children:
- Ambivalent attachment. Caregivers are unpredictable in their responses. Children become anxious and impulsive, with low self-esteem.
- Avoidant attachment. Caregivers are hostile and reject the child. First graders will be outwardly unemotional, but sad and angry inside. They will often display aggressive behavior.
- Disorganized attachment. Caregivers struggle with their own problems (drugs, mental health, or alcohol) and may be aggressive. Children are sad, unpredictable in their behavior, with low social skills.
How You Can Help
Children who grow up with secure attachment to their caregivers develop a positive view of themselves and the world around them. Caregivers who provide love and respect, will raise first graders with positive social skills, high self-esteem, and problem-solving abilities. More than half of all children have secure attachments. Parents who want to work on these skills should consider these suggestions.
- Consistency. Routines, with expected patterns at bedtime, mealtimes, and play, will help your first grader feel more secure.
- Love. As you drop your child off at school in the morning, tell them you love them. Children who receive love feel nurtured and protected, and tend to see the world in the same way.
- Response. Being there for your first grader will give them security and the confidence to explore the world.
- Limits. First graders need to know where the limits lie. Overly permissive environments can produce confused children.
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