Tips for Parents: College Thinkin'

Tips for Parents: College Thinkin'
By Deborah Claymon
Davidson Institute for Talent Development

Source: Davdison Young Scholar Seminar
This is a summary of the college admission seminar for the Davidson Academy parents facilitated by Deborah Claymon. Starting at grade 11, Claymon walks the reader through the steps students should follow in order to ask the right questions, take the right tests, and apply to the right colleges!

Looking ahead to college is a very exciting – but also complicated task – when it comes to the profoundly gifted and academically advanced students at The Davidson Academy. Well ahead of their peers and far from the conventional path through high school, these students face more difficult decisions in deciding what course to take to an undergraduate degree. Even whether to complete an undergraduate degree outside of co-curricular study at the University of Nevada Reno remains a decision that DA students and their parents will approach in many different ways.

DA parents are smart in asking fundamental questions such as “What is the best reason to go to college?” and “What is the best way to support your child as they wrestle with these questions?” Those are big questions but for starters, reasons to attend undergraduate years of college revolve around gaining a degree for professional advancement, establishing a foundation in a field of study to pursue an advanced degree for professional advancement, exploring many fields of study to determine where a young person might like to spend his or her intellectual talents, and of course, years of independent school away from home and family to develop a young person's own community of peers and mentors. The flip side (as in the worst reasons to go to college) is two-fold: first, as a race to a degree, and second, as a prestige game, where only a handful of institutions are worth attending. The latter is the window sticker and sweatshirt charade, where quality and great match for a student is subservient to what some outside source has said is the best place to be.

For parents, the best ways to support a student is to help them to also ask good questions. What do I want to do with my talents? What haven't I explored that I want to? What kind of learning community suits me? How do I see crossing that bridge to more independence in my life? Visiting colleges, encouraging overnight stays with family friends, or as arranged through an admission office, can really give students a firsthand view of what college life is like, and what places may be a fit for them. As your children chart their course to this milestone, help them uncover the information they need and keep a very open mind about a school match. Opportunities and launching pads come in so many, many great packages.

In general, students should take the reins of academic and non-academic decisions, with a background of support from parents. Both should be equipped with a general knowledge of how admission works and what kinds of schools may be a student's target goals. It's an oldie but a goody -- but I still recommend parents and students read “The College Admission Mystique” by Bill Mayher.

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