Partnering with Parents to Prevent Child Sexual Abuse

Parental Support of CSA Prevention Education

A parent's first step in supporting a school-based CSA prevention program is simply to allow his or her child's participation. Unfortunately, parents who have concerns about these programs or believe that they are harmful may not allow their children to take part. However, the research shows that children can learn personal safety skills without becoming anxious, acting out, or becoming confused about appropriate touch.

Some parents believe that their children are at low risk for sexual exploitation (Collins, 1996) or that children are too young to understand the topic (Wurtele, Kvaternick, and Franklin, 1992). Yet young children are especially vulnerable to this type of abuse. Their smaller size and dependent status, along with their difficulty in recognizing, resisting, and reporting abuse, put them at greater risk for sexual victimization.

There are other parents who define child molesters as "social misfits," (Conte and Fogarty, 1989) "dirty old men," (Morrison and Greene, 1992) or strangers (Berrick, 1988). Parents who hold these beliefs may think CSA prevention education isn't necessary if their child never has contact with these types of people. But research tells us that children are most often victimized by family members, substitute caregivers, or trusted adults who function "normally" in society.

Reinforcing Personal Safety Skills at Home

Most educators will inform parents of the CSA prevention lessons they're teaching at school, which gives parents the chance to help clarify lesson concepts and correct children's misconceptions.

For example, the most effective CSA prevention programs teach children a safety rule about identifying safe and unsafe touches. Parents can reinforce and help children better understand the touching-safety rule in a variety of ways. They can practice "what if" scenarios with children, starting out with simple questions (for example, "What if you found a nickel on the street?") before moving onto more involved questions to reinforce basic personal safety skills (for example, "What if your friend wanted to show you his father's gun? What if you wanted to ride your bicycle but couldn't find your helmet?").

In the TALKING ABOUT TOUCHING program, children learn "a bigger person shouldn't touch your private body parts except to keep you clean and healthy." Parents can ask their child "what if" questions related to this rule (for example, "What if a babysitter tried to touch your private parts? What if your private parts were hurt? Would it be okay for a doctor to touch them?").

Such questions are helpful in teaching children to distinguish between appropriate and inappropriate touches. And letting children say "no" to adults and older children—even if it's only to decline a friendly hug—allows them to set their own boundaries and empowers them to say "no" to people who want to break the touching-safety rule.

Parents can also instruct children to tell them (and other adults) if someone breaks the touching rule. When parents discuss CSA prevention with children and give developmentally appropriate answers to questions about sexuality, children will learn that their parents are approachable, and they will be more likely to disclose inappropriate touch.

Detecting and Responding to Abuse

Parents, because of their close relationships with children (and their children's friends), are in an excellent position to detect sexual abuse. Early detection can help a child receive assistance to prevent the long-term impact of ongoing CSA. Parents can educate themselves about the signs and symptoms of CSA and learn how to respond appropriately to a child's disclosure. Nonsupportive reactions to disclosed abuse (for example, "Don't make up stories like that” or “Why did you let him do it?") can have significantly negative effects on victims.

Reducing Risk Factors

Parents can reduce offenders' access to their children by increasing supervision—knowing where their children are, who they're with, and what they're doing. Given that the largest percentage of offenders are people in positions of authority (coaches, clergymen, and so on), parents should be wary of adults (and teenagers) who prefer the company of children and want to spend a lot of time alone with them.

Other ways to reduce a child's risk include rearranging sleeping conditions that might be conducive to inappropriate sexual behaviors between family members and checking daycare and babysitting arrangements.

If children are old enough to use the Internet, parents need to establish safety rules for its use. Children should know that they should never give out personal information (name, address, age, phone number), send pictures without permission, or agree to meet face-to-face with someone they've met online.

There are other possible protective factors that might reduce the risk of abuse: communicating openly within the family and discouraging secrets, discussing healthy sexuality, preventing a child's exposure to sexually explicit media, and stressing the importance of personal body safety and privacy in the home. Moreover, parents need to be reassured that nonsexual touching is a natural and essential part of parenting.

By Sandy Wurtele, Ph.D.

Dr. Sandy Wurtele is a professor of psychology at the University of Colorado in Colorado Springs.

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