Preparing Children for a Multicultural World (page 2)

By — NYU Child Study Center
Updated on Jul 9, 2010

Set a good example

Children learn from observing your interactions with others. If you're respectful of all people, your children will follow suit. A little self-analysis is essential in being a good role model. Parents should be aware of the impact of their own biases on their children's developing ideas about differences in race, religion, skin color etc. It is also important to respond to other people's biased behavior. If a family member or neighbor tells an ethnic joke or makes a racial slur in front of you or your child, confront the issue immediately.

Relax and answer the question

When your children ask about skin color or other differences they have noticed among people, answer in a relaxed, straightforward way. If your child detects embarrassment or annoyance in your words, tone or facial expression, he might think something is wrong with being different or feel that he is bad for asking. You might say. "You see how your skin is like mine? Well, his skin is like his parents, his grandparents, and other people in his family." If you are standing in a crowd and would feel more comfortable talking privately, you can simply say, "That's an important question. Let's talk about that when we have some time alone."

Expose your child to different cultures

The friendships your child makes can have a lasting effect. Consider schools or childcare programs that embrace diversity and include children representative of different cultures. An environment that reflects diversity can help children appreciate the richness of our world. And on a practical level, children need to learn how to interact with a variety of people-not just now, but throughout their lives. Someday, after all, these children will share the workplace with people of all colors and backgrounds. Also, fun-to-read books that happen to feature multiracial characters are another great way to help your child see the world as it really exists.

Correct your children

If your children make an insensitive remark, remind them of how they feel when they aren't treated well by their friends. As they learn to identify with other people's feelings, they'll gain insight into the unfairness and harshness of prejudice.

If this nation is to prosper in the next millennium respect and appreciation of the cultural mosaic that is this country is vital.

How can parents and teachers help teach tolerance?

Adapt the activities suggested below for different ages, using developmentally appropriate language. For example, even young children are aware of differences in appearances:

  • Parents should affirm young children’s curiosity about race and ethnicity by pointing out that people come in many colors.
  • Emphasize that groups of people should not be judged for the actions of a few.
  • Teaching tolerance is an ongoing process, not a single discussion, and should be discussed from different points of view as incidents occur.
  • Encourage role playing and discuss both sides of an issue.
  • Be sensitive to racial and cultural stereotypes and have a discussion when stereotypes are portrayed.
  • In the media. Avoid making negative statements, even in the form of humor, about any racial, ethnic or religious group.
  • Expose children to different cultures; read books with multicultural themes and provide access to diverse music, literature and art.
  • Create opportunities for children to interact with people from different backgrounds. Consider enrolling children in schools, child care facilities and after-school sports that value diversity.
  • Research your own family history to determine from where and under what circumstances grandparents and great-grandparents emigrated.
  • Teach older children how to take action. Knowing what to do, such as lodging a complaint with the appropriate school personnel or writing a letter to an editor, when they experience intolerance enables children to feel they have some control.

References and Related Books

For Parents

Teaching Tolerance
S. Bullard
Main Street Books 1997

Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria? And Other Conversations about Race
B.D. Tatum
Basic 1999

I'm Chocolate, You're Vanilla: Raising Healthy Black and Biracial children in a Race-conscious World
M.A. Wright
Jossey Bass 1998

For Children

The Skin I'm In
S. Flake
Hyperion Books for Children 1998

Bright Eyes, Brown Skin
C.W. Hudson & B.G. Ford
Just US Books 1990

Two Eyes, a Nose, and a Mouth
R.G. Intrater
Cartwheel 2000

We're Different, We're the Same
B.J. Kates
Random House 1992

All the Colors We Are
K. Kissinger
Readleaf Press 1997

Happy Birthday, Martin Luther King
J. Marzollo
Scholastic 1993

The Butter Battle Book
Dr. Seuss
Random House 1984

For Teachers

Creating the Nonsexist Classroom: A Multicultural Approach
T. McCormick
Teachers College Press 1994

Teaching and Learning in a Diverse World
P. Ramsey
Teachers College Press 1998

About the NYU Child Study Center

The New York University Child Study Center is dedicated to increasing the awareness of child and adolescent psychiatric disorders and improving the research necessary to advance the prevention, identification, and treatment of these disorders on a national scale. The Center offers expert psychiatric services for children, adolescents, young adults, and families with emphasis on early diagnosis and intervention. The Center's mission is to bridge the gap between science and practice, integrating the finest research with patient care and state-of-the-art training utilizing the resources of the New York University School of Medicine. The Child Study Center was founded in 1997 and established as the Department of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry within the NYU School of Medicine in 2006. For more information, please call us at (212) 263-6622 or visit us at

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