Seven Tips to Building Unconditional Love
Do you know how to build a foundation of unconditional love and nurturing within a family? Dr. Rose T. Watson discusses her tips for raising children with unconditional love. In her book, Purposeful Parenting: Strategies for Raising Children Who Achieve, she claims that children who receive unconditional love are high academic achievers who are able to create solid relationships with those around them. She recommends “showing your children the right way to go with love.” What does that mean in terms of parents? As a parent, she taught by modeling unconditional love, so that her children would then be able to create loving and stable relationships with those they love. Her strategies include love-in-spite-of-anything, setting clear but reasonable boundaries, keeping lines of communication open, and supporting the children at all times.
Her first strategy, “distinguishing between the act and the actor” helps parents have a healthy perspective when dealing with misbehavior. According to “Dr. Mom,” parents should continue loving their child whether or not they are misbehaving; rather, they should focus on healthy discipline. She states, “A big part of the security children felt was our establishment of rules and limits. ” Watson firmly believes the right freedom provides children with more space to navigate their lives, not less. Dr. Mom recommends giving children more freedom as they demonstrate they can handle the responsibility. With the addition of fair discipline and boundaries, parents build a healthy bridge of open and honest communication. All these steps lead to building a foundation of unconditional love within your family, which is then passed on to your children.
Teaching Discipline With Unconditional Love - Dr. Mom's seven tips to building unconditional love within the family
1. A foundation of unconditional love will smooth your child’s path to adulthood.
2. Discipline and punishment are two entirely different things; one implies instructing and correcting, the other penalties and pain.
3. Establish and explain reasonable boundaries for your child. Seek cooperation through communication, negotiation and agreement, thus avoiding defiance.
4. When you have to discipline, talk about it. If you have to punish, discuss it beforehand.
5. Distinguish between the act and the actor.
6. Avoid punishing or humiliating your child in public despite any confusion or embarrassment you may be feeling at the time.
7. Dialogue with your child and make reasonable concessions. Listening to your child is just as important as your child listening to you.
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