Sixth Grade: A Time of Change
Sixth-graders are at a time of life which can be confusing. Many changes are happening to their bodies and in their social world. Mom, Dad, teachers and others are urging them to "grow up." And these children are trying to become less dependent, less emotionally attached to parents. Because of this, they may not want to go to their parents with their concerns.
Sixth-graders often talk about their peers and the changes they are experiencing. They discuss a wide range of topics. They may talk on the phone about their feelings and about the opposite sex. If you look at your child's notebooks, you may see doodles and the names of the opposite sex covering the page. This is a way of exploring some of these changes. They also talk about their parents, their attitudes, rules and other important things. Sixth-graders realize that their friends do not know all the answers to their questions so they may ask an adult for information. Don't be upset if your child asks other adults for information. Sometimes it is easier to talk to someone else.
Parents want their children to be in the "right crowd." Many of the friends your child associates with at this age will be his friends throughout high school.
If your child is showing undesirable behavior, she needs your guidance and support so she can solve her own problems. She doesn't need your direct orders.
lf parents are supportive, children are less likely to get involved with problem peers. Sixth-graders want to be treated with respect and make choices that satisfy both them and their parents. "Guidance" means allowing them the opportunity to make some of these choices.
Sometimes your child will use your rules to help him say no to his friends. He may argue about these rules, but rules do help a child say no. Rules provide structure. Fair rules are very important at this age.
Consider negotiating and compromising on some rules, like curfew, clothing and hair styles. Don't "sweat the small stuff." A major argument over a pair of jeans or style of haircut is pointless when there are far more important issues to deal with! Save your energy and your child's attention for the important issues.
Reprinted with the permission of the Iowa State University Extension. © 2008 Iowa State University Extension.
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