Five Strategies to Prevent Your Sensitive Son from Being Bullied (page 2)

Updated on Aug 19, 2010

Help your Son Obtain Peer Support through New Friendships

Most boys prefer to socialize in large groups, yet sensitive boys usually prefer to interact with only one friend or play by themselves. Since they shy away from aggressive, combative interactions, HSBs may have difficulties making friends with other boys.

It may be better for your son to have just one friend rather than trying to be accepted by a group of non-HSBs. However, it could be beneficial for your son to learn how to navigate through the majority non-sensitive boy culture as long as the friends involved remain respectful. Take some time to discuss friendship with your son and emphasize how important it is to be with friends who respect him. It's important for your son to create a balance between spending time alone and with friends or he may not learn successful interpersonal skills.

Help your Son Become Physically Fit

When a boy becomes involved in sports, he feels accepted by his peers, which increases his self-esteem. Most boys are involved in some team sports, but research indicates that 85% of sensitive boys did not participate in team sports and most preferred to participate in individual exercise. Since HSBs often do not perform well under group pressure and may be deeply hurt by the sometimes cruel culture of sports competition, they tend to avoid such interactions.

Regardless of athletic ability, it's important for your son to participate in physical exercise since it will help him become healthier, stronger and more confident. When an HSB has someone to teach and encourage him how to play various games, he could thrive, even in the sometimes insensitive world of male sports. However, before your son joins a team, you should talk with the coach and possibly other parents to make sure that the players are treated with respect and are not overly competitive. The key is to find athletic activities that your son authentically enjoys.

Help Your Son Develop Confidence - Body and Spirit

Research has shown that the more dissatisfied a boy is with his body, the poorer his self-esteem. A sensitive boy who reacts more deeply to teasing about his physical appearance than a non-HSB is at risk for developing low self-esteem. Though the media can be a strong influence on your son, as an adult in his life, you are the stronger influence by letting him know that his body is perfect exactly as it is. Discuss how the media is perpetuating myths about what a male body should look like.

An important aspect of a positive body image involves good health. Stress affects health and since your son may be more vulnerable to stress than the non-HSB, it's important to help him develop a healthy regimen by making sure he eats a healthy diet, takes appropriate supplements, and gets enough sleep and regular exercise.

Finally, while your son's self-esteem may be diminished by his not fitting in with non-sensitive children, he can feel worthwhile with nourishment from spiritual pursuits. Since many HSBs have a proclivity toward spirituality, you can increase his self-esteem by encouraging your son to learn meditation, prayer, spend time in nature, or read spiritual books about the great sensitive and compassionate spiritual heroes like Christ, Moses or other saints and sages.

There are millions of parents of sensitive boys trying to help their sons cope in a world that does not appreciate sensitivity in males. As you begin using the suggestions in this article you will likely start seeing a positive change in your son as he becomes a strong, confident, and happy boy.

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