Study Abroad: When in Rome, Do as the Romans Do

Talk the talk

You may be afraid to use the native language because you're not completely comfortable with it; maybe you hesitate when putting together sentences, stumble using the correct tense, or often pause to determine the correct vocabulary. Most people are flattered by your attempts to use their native language and may even help you out by correcting your sentences!

Try to avoid using slang expressions you learned before your arrival because slang expressions are unique to a particular culture. You may have learned Spanish that is frequently used in Mexico, but you are now studying in Spain, so the idiomatic expressions you know could be meaningless or inappropriate in Spain. Any slang expressions that you learn in your host country should be okay. Also, know whether you should use the "familiar" or "formal" forms of address. If you are uncertain, err on the side of being too formal.

In case your foreign language teacher has never mentioned this, do not, under any circumstances, attempt to translate American idiomatic expressions into the native language. Most likely the idiom will sound like complete nonsense when translated, but even worse, it could turn into an inappropriate or offensive comment.

Avoid personal questions and politics

Americans have a fairly open and sharing culture. It is not difficult or out of the ordinary for us to talk about ourselves. However, in other countries, talking about oneself may be considered rude, as could asking personal questions. It is best to let your host lead the conversation when engaging in "small talk." On the other hand, don't be offended if natives from your host country ask questions that are considered rude or strange in the U.S. You may be asked how much money your father makes, which president you voted for in the last election, whether you own a gun, or how much your parents paid for their house. These kinds of questions are considered normal in some cultures.

You may be surprised at how well-educated your abroad counterparts are in politics and international relations (some pay more attention to American politics and policy than Americans do!). As the token American in the crowd, you may be unknowingly roped into a political debate. Don't feel as though you need to falsify your own political views, but be aware of your audience " you may want to tone down your statements or make sure you can rationally defend what you say. Try to avoid offending people as much as possible, if only so that you don't get classified as an arrogant American who thinks everyone must agree with the United States or with you personally.

Mind your Ps and Qs

Always strive to be as polite as possible. That way, no one can ever fault you for not being polite enough. Remember many cultures have more formal social customs than the U.S. does, so spend more time on social niceties than you may at home. For example, be ready to offer a formal word of greeting to whomever you meet on campus, on the street, or in stores. Familiarize yourself with the appropriate expressions of gratitude in response to hospitality.

Be wary of making jokes

Ever seen the late night British comedies on PBS and wondered at the rather dry, witty British humor? Every country has a different sense of humor, and it is often quite different from the type of joking around Americans are used to. In fact, many will not appreciate our jokes. Some cultures are quite literal and frequently misconstrue comments that we intend as humorous.

Go easy with the snapshots

You are going to want to document your time abroad with a camera. But be careful about including random people on the street or who just happen to be in front of a monument or building in your photos. The people you snap pictures of are human beings and not creatures in a zoo! Use tact and discretion in photographing strangers; it is always a good idea to politely ask permission before taking someone's picture.

Negotiate market prices effectively

In some cultures, haggling over price is expected in the marketplace. Figure out in which circumstances bargaining is appropriate so you don't run the risk of insulting merchants or appearing ignorant. If you're unsure whether bargaining is appropriate in a given situation, you can let the merchant know you like a particular item but that it is a bit outside of your price range. If the merchant wants to bargain with you, this gives him or her the opportunity to offer you the item at a lower price; if the merchant is not of the bargaining sort, then you can politely end the conversation and move on.

Respect personal space

Every culture has a different perception of personal space: how far away to stand or sit when conversing and how to shake hands or wave goodbye. Physical contact may not be especially appreciated or understood by someone unfamiliar with the American culture; a cheerful pat on the back or a hug may be embarrassing or uncomfortable in certain cultures. Use restraint until you learn what level of familiarity you should adopt. On the other hand, your host culture may have very little personal space " women " and even men " may walk arm in arm with each other or kiss each other in greeting. You don't need to initiate greetings this way if this may make you uncomfortable " but do try not to shy away when a local grabs your arm or kisses you on the cheek. They may not understand your reservation.