Bullying is a significant issue in America these days. It is estimated that anywhere from 11 to 25 percent of teens are the target of bullying in the United States. It’s been reported that 160,000 students miss school every day to avoid being bullied.
While legislators are moving forward rapidly to enact laws against bullying, this problem likely will remain a reality of teenage life. Therefore, it’s important that parents know what to do to avoid a tragic outcome in their family if one of their children is the victim of bullying.
One of the major problems among students who are bullied is that they are humiliated and embarrassed to the point where they keep it to themselves. Many victims incorrectly assume that because someone or a small group is picking on them, they think the whole world views them that way. This humiliation and sense of solitude can lead to depression and, as we’re seeing in some cases, to suicide.
Parents of teens who have taken their own life have revealed later that they weren't aware of their child's problem. The kids had not felt confident enough in their relationship with their parents to seek their help. One parent of a teen who took his own life said, “If only he’d known how much he mattered to so many people.”
Building a “Home Court Advantage”
So, what can parents do to grow a closer connection to their teens? My advice is to build what I call a “home court advantage.”
We hear of a home court advantage in sports, where the home team enjoys an edge as it feeds off the support of its fans. In families, the home court advantage helps teens reduce stress, cope with challenges and actually feel good about their life. In addition, it strengthens the parent-teen relationship to the point where the teen will confide in his parents during times of trouble.
Building a home court advantage is a long-term process; it’s not a quick fix. The trust and the connection must grow over time. Here are four key steps in how to do it.
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Reprinted with the permission of Learning Forum International.