Social and emotional development
- Preteens and teens begin to spend more time with peers and less time with family.
- Preteens and teens begin to form their identity by exploring different clothes, hairstyles, friends, music, and hobbies.
- Moodiness is common as youth struggle to search for an identity.
- Preteens and teens push limits that adults put on them to assert their independence.
- Preteens and teens have mixed feelings about "breaking away" from parents. One day your daughter may want nothing to do with you, the next she is constantly at your side.
- Troubled youth may act out (for example, get into physical fights, use alcohol or other drugs, skip school) to express emotional pain.
Tips for Parents
- Preteens and teens are sometimes embarrassed by their changing bodies and concerned that they are not developing at the same rate as their friends. Reassure your child that young people grow and develop at their own pace and that the changes are normal.
- Do not tease your child about pubertal changes.
- Explain the importance of good personal hygiene. Active sweat glands call for regular bathing and deodorant. For healthy teeth, everyone should brush twice a day with a fluoride toothpaste and floss daily.
- Set reasonable and appropriate limits. Preteens and teens want guidance.
- When differences arise, listen to your child and try to understand his or her point of view.
- Choose your battles! Hold your ground on important issues such as grades and drugs, and let go of smaller issues such as hairstyles and clothes. If it won't matter a year from now, is it worth arguing over?
- Allow your preteen or teen to make more decisions as he or she proves the ability to use good judgment.
- If your child is acting out, talk with him or her to get to the heart of the problem.
- Get counseling for your child or the whole family if you believe it could help.
- Talk with other parents about your concerns, their parenting experiences, setting limits, etc.
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Reprinted with the permission of the Palo Alto Medical Foundation. 2008 Palo Alto Medical Foundation. All rights reserved.
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