Talking To Teenagers about Sexual Orientation (page 2)

What’s it all about?

One of the passages of adolescence is the development and understanding of sexuality. This includes understanding one’s body, gender identity, sexual orientation, and values about sexual activity. During adolescence, many teens begin to explore their sexuality. For all teens, this is a challenging transition. But for teens who are questioning their sexual orientation, or who identify as being gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender, this can be a very lonely, difficult and threatening transition. It can also be a difficult time for parents, who may have fears and questions of their own. It is crucial for teens to get support and understanding from their peers, parents and other adults when they have questions about sexual orientation.

Why Does It Matter?

It is a matter of emotional health, physical health and safety:

• The experience of gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender teens can be one of isolation, fear of prejudice and lack of peer or family support.
• Gay and lesbian youth have higher rates of suicide attempts. Up to 30% of gay and bisexual adolescent males say they have attempted suicide at least once. Some of the increased risk may be due to societal or family rejection of gay youth.
• Youth who report same-sex or both-sex romantic attraction are more likely to experience extreme forms of violence than youth who report heterosexual attraction.
• Homosexual and bisexual adolescents are at greater risk for STIs, substance abuse, unwanted pregnancies, suicide and earlier onset of heterosexual intercourse than their heterosexual peers.

What Are The Details?

• Exploration with partners of both sexes is a natural part of growing up for many youth.
• How one’s sexual orientation is determined is unknown. It develops across a person's lifetime. Most experts agree that homosexuality is not caused by trauma, imitation of homosexual people, bad heterosexual experiences, sex role nonconformity, rape and sexual abuse.
• Sexual orientation is one component of a person’s identity. Sexual orientation is defined by a person’s feelings, not the type of sexual behavior he or she chooses to engage in.
• “Coming out” is a process of understanding and deciding not to hide one’s sexual orientation.
• In a survey of Seattle teens, 91% said they were heterosexual, 4% said they were bisexual, 1% said they were homosexual and 4% said they were not sure.
• A transgendered person is someone whose gender identity (someone’s internal sense of being male or female) differs from the traditional expectations for their physical sex. They may be gay, straight, or bisexual.
• Homophobia—an intense or irrational fear or hatred of gays and lesbians—may make it very difficult for gay teens to feel safe, to express their feelings or to seek help.