Hey, cut your kid a little slack; in kindergarten, everyone was a winner. Entering first grade means entering a world where mistakes matter. Not only that, but first graders eagerly ask to compete in various capacities throughout the school. "Teachers and schools have competitions of what class has the best attendance of parents at the PTO meeting, coloring contests, essay contests, standardized test scores attainment, and on and on," says Deb Moberly, an associate professor within the early childhood division of teaching and learning at the University of Missouri, St. Louis. "Perhaps we need to take a step back and re-examine our competitive nature," she urges. "Why pressure young children? Why isn't doing your best enough?"