How to Talk to Your Kindergartener

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Identify the Behavior

1. Red light language begins by identifying the behavior by name, such as, “John, that's name-calling.” It's very important that you call the behavior by the same name every time. It matters less what you call it, and more that you stick with the name you decide upon for every occurrence. In other words, if you call the behavior "whining" one time, don't call it "complaining" later.