Let Her Choose
If chore charts and nagging aren't working, maybe your kid needs more control, suggests Rhonda Franz, managing editor of parentingsquad.com. When it's time to clean up, point out the things that need to be done around the house. Ask your kid to make her own to-do list, choosing three items from your list, and give her some freedom on when the tasks should be completed. For example, "Chores must be done by 6:00 this evening," is more flexible than "I want this cleaned up in an hour."