6 Things Parents Can Do to Squash Sibling Rivalry

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Understand Where It Comes From

As a parent, it’s important to know what sibling rivalry stems from. Parents are often stricter with their first child than with subsequent children, so when your older child says, “That’s not fair! I wasn’t allowed to stay up that late when I was his age!” he might actually have a point. And when your younger child says, “You used to drag us to all of her volleyball games when I was little, but she never comes to mine,” she may not be exaggerating. That doesn’t mean you have to change the way that you parent now—when you have less time and fewer resources spread among your children—but it means that you can empathize with your children a bit more easily when they start to compare.