20 Things You Should Say to Your Kid Often

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Are you willing to do what it takes to improve it?

This question is related to the last, but it addresses a different idea. “Maybe she knows what she needs to do to improve her soccer ability, but she just doesn’t want to,” Buck suggests. “Her interests are elsewhere and that’s where she wants to spend her time and energy.” This is a perfectly valid judgment for your child to make, and one you should accept without criticism or correction. Doing so will ensure that your child continues to open up to you and answer honestly, rather than simply the way you want her to.