Be Honest With Yourself
Watching your children compete with each other may bring memories of your own sibling relationships growing up.
“One way to better understand your perception of your children's relationships is to sit down and reflect on your own experiences. Then think about how your children's experiences are similar and dissimilar,” Cassatly says.
Are your past sibling experiences coloring the way you’re treating your children’s sibling rivalry? Did you always have to give into your young sibling? Did your older sibling always exclude you? Even if you didn’t have siblings, did you always dream of what it would be like if you did?
If you’re not sure whether your childhood relationships are impacting the way you see your children’s interactions, consider speaking with an objective observer for an unbiased opinion. Ask your partner, your child’s teacher or your child care provider.