10 Tips to Polish Up Your Parenting Prowess
Learn the do's and don'ts of disciplining your child.
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1. Improve Your Kid's Decision-Making Skills
DON'T: If you are not willing to accept your child's decision, don't give your child a choice.DO: If you give your child options, accept his choices.
2. Validate Her Emotions
DON'T: Disregard your kid's emotions. Denying a child's feelings is ultimately rejecting the child.DO: Validate your child's feelings, because they are genuine.
3. Show Respect, Get Respect
DON'T: Command respect. The quality of respect you will receive will be as artificial or natural as how you ask for it.DO: Earn respect by showing it to your child. Act kindly, firmly, and consistently.
4. Be Consistent
DON'T: Demand a behavior that you can't or won't enforce.DO: Enforce the rules you establish with consistency.
5. Foster Real Love
DON'T: Buy your child's love. True affection comes naturally.DO: Earn affection by showing love to your child. You receive the love that you give.
6. Contemplate Your Actions and Reactions
DON'T: Fear making a mistake. Everyone messes up. If we don't try we may never know if something will work.DO: Act quickly and think on your feet when needed. Remember to thoughtfully consider the situation and your reaction later.
7. Be Understanding
DON'T: Assume children will always share why they did something.DO: Understand that when kids can't or won't express why they did something, there is likely a good reason.
8. Give Kids Responsibilities
DON'T: Take away responsibility. When a child fails to carry out a job, don't take away the task.DO: Give your kids responsibility. Give them another chance to fulfill the responsibility if they can't succeed the first time.
9. Have Realistic Expectations
DON'T: Expect children to behave like adults. Children can feel incompetent if you hold them to an unreasonable standard.DO: Know what is within limits to expect from a child. Set your child up to succeed.
10. Walk the Talk
DON'T: Tell children to do one thing and act out the opposite. Showing self-discipline is needed for your child to take your seriously.DO: Keep in mind that children learn more from what they see than what they hear. Model the example you want them to follow.