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Bribery: When to Say Yes

Bribery: When to Say Yes

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Updated on Feb 3, 2014

It's rare to find a parent who hasn’t relied on the occasional bribe to extract certain behavior from her kid. But whether you bribe every so often or you make it part of your regular routine, bribing can have specific repercussions. Joshua Klapow, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist for the University of Alabama at Birmingham School of Public health, notes that not all bribery is bad. "'Bribe' has a very negative connotation, but bribing is basically offering a value proposition to do or not do a behavior," he explains. "We bribe people every day—we pay them if they will work. So bribing is in its most neutral sense is what makes the world go around."

Still, just because bribing might be a way of life doesn't mean it's the best method to get your kid to act a certain way. As Klapow puts it, "The question is, what pattern of behavior are you going to establish if you set forth the bribe?" Will that pattern be harmful in the long run? If you bribe your kid to get good grades, will he have trouble motivating himself to succeed when he goes to college? Understanding the effects of bribing your kid will help you judge when it's okay, and when it's better to play it by the book.

Intrinsic vs. Extrinsic Motivation

To figure out how to approach the idea of bribery, it's important to understand the difference between intrinsic (internal) and extrinsic (external) motivaiton. Just because your kid will follow through on something because he really wants the reward doesn't mean his motivation is coming from within. Intrinsic motivation is motivation that comes from one's own desires, goals, and values, free of other incentives (e.g. a student studying hard because he wants to learn). Extrinsic motivation is motivation that comes from doing something only to receive a reward or to avoid punishment (e.g. a student studying hard because his parents promised to give him money for a good report card).

Bribery Benefits

Hey, we've all been there: a tantrum in the grocery store leaves you red in the face and scrabbling for something, anything that will get your screamer to quiet down. So you offer a treat in exchange for better behavior. And it usually works!  "So many times we use a bribe to get us out of a sticky situation," says Klapow. "We use these bribes because they have powerful short term effects. So the good news is that very often you can use a bribe to change a behavior in the short term." 

The Drawbacks

While bribing your kids can get you some immediate results, it can potentially open a can of worms. Bribery establishes an expectation, warns Klapow, especially in young children who are still figuring out how the world works. The next time you're tempted to bait your child with a new toy, treat, or even money to get the best behavior or grades, consider the drawbacks of teaching your child to rely on rewards. 

Think about what kind of incentive system will benefit your little one most in the future: doing something because he'll get a reward, or doing something because it's the right thing to do and/or because it makes him happy? It's not hard to see why the most successful, fulfilled, and resilient people are those who are self-determining, and have a strong internal drive to help them overcome adversity. And let's face it, dangling the carrot can be an escalation game; a new toy car isn't likely to have as much bargaining power with a sixteen-year-old as it would with a six-year-old. So is there a way to find a balance?    

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