lanie_gooch
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My 11 year old daughter continuously steals food (only sweets) from home and from school. I cannot figure out how to get her to stop. Any ideas?
For a few years now, my daughter, now 11, takes sweets from the kitchen, hides them in her room and eats them. It has escalated to her stealing candy from a teacher and giving it to another teacher, while eating some herself. I do not allow any of my 3 children to have very many sugary snacks, trying to keep them healthy and teaching them that sugary snacks are only for special occasions. Normally she confesses after a few days, but right now we are missing and entire bottle of honey and she won't "fess up" this time. I'm at the end of my rope, I don't know what to do to get her to stop taking food and how to effectively discipline her when she does it (both for stealing food and lying about it). It's causing serious problems with our home life, and I just need some advise from others who have been through this.
Any thoughts, ideas, or discipline tactics that have worked for others would be greatly appreciated!

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What the Expert Says:

The article that you read before asking your question is a helpful one, and offers some sound ideas for dealing with young children's ability to sort reality. However, at 11 children are typically more able to know what is a lie.  In your daughter's case there appears to be more going on than just the lying and "stealing" of the sweets. There are signs of an emerging pattern of disordered eating behavior.  Discipline in the form of rules, consequences, and follow through is important, but it is equally important that the consequences and follow through happen with a no-shaming policy.  My best suggestion is to consult a clinical social worker or psychologist who can help you to determine the underlying causes for this type of behavior and its escalation. You might want to choose a professional who has experience dealing with families since you mention that this is causing problems in your home life.
Good luck and let us know how it goes.
Bette J. Freedson, LICSW, LCSW, CGP
Clinical Social Worker
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http://www.singlemomsos.com/index.html

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trixie713
trixie713 writes:
I have the exact same problem with my eleven yearold stepson...
first off, what we did was put an alarm outside his door, (which is basically the kitchen) when he decides to get up at night to take the food, the alarm goes off. we get up and see what he is up too. (this has helped alot)
as for punishment. it doesnt really matter, there has been days where his dad has planned something really fun with him for the next day. its an incentive to not steal food during the night.. but for some odd reason he knows hes got something fun going on in the morning. he still steals the food. we have tried making him write sentences, i have removed everything from his room. (because i am the one that has to search it EVERYDAY and hes starting to get good with hiding the wrappers in his toy box and such.) i have even made him do what we call the jackie chan. (from the new karate kid.) and you can do this with anything (leaving a back pack out, shoes out, not filling the toliet paper roll, anything!) is if he hide the wrapper under his bed. i make him take it from under his bed. to the garbage. throw it away. go back in his room. come back out. take the wrapper out of the garbage. put it back under his bed. take it from under his bed. put it in the garbage. go back in his room. repeat. basically until he gets it. the fact that you have to throw garbage away.
i have really big concerns with his health, he eats a brick of cheese, and then wonders why he cant poop the next day. i am afraid he might develop diabetes. along with black mold off the food, and bugs.
needless to say, he still does this behavior no matter what we do.
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