My 12 year old boy was grabbed around the neck by teacher and pulled back.

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hadley13 asks:

[School] head agrees this is not allowed. teacher says he sees no wrong in grabbing his neck. my son was not fighting. should we take this further?

In Topics: School and Academics, My Relationship with my child's school, Bullying and teasing

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This is not an easy question to answer without knowing all the facts involved such as what events lead up to the situation, was it an “accident,” and if there was a mark left on your son’s neck. There is no reason why a teacher should ever have to grab a student by the neck. If your son was out of control, then the teacher should have been trained to know that he should call for help and get the principal or the counselor to help remove your child from the room.

As far as taking this to the next level, we can not give legal advice. Your principal or another administrator should have addressed the situation and disciplined the teacher. There should be a protocol in place such as when the school is required to contact the police or Child Protective Services. As a parent, if you feel the situation warrants a police or child abuse investigation, it is your right to contact them.

Placing the legal issues aside, your son’s emotional health should be your main priority. If he feels afraid to go back to school to face his teacher, then you should be able to talk to the school counselor or school social worker for guidance. If the teacher continues to be irresponsible and your son is affected again, then you may decide to take a legal course of action.

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kateyez23 writes:

Well if the action of the teacher did not harm your son in any way, I wouldn't make a big deal of it; just be sure to talk with the teacher and/or an administrator to ask that it never happens again. Be firm, but respectful and kind. You can always get a person with kindness.

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hohumm1 writes:

In the school districts I work with, there is a group of security officer's in place, so that the staff will call them to the room, in order to take care of a "volatile" situation. I do not know whether this is the case for your son's school, but if that is the case, they probably needed to be notified, before this situation escalated to this point. I would find out what the circumstances around this event were, and do as the other folks have suggested.

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Catskill writes:

Yes -- If this is a public school, this type of contact is illegal. If the principal refuses to take action, file a complaint with the school board, or see an attorney. If it is a private school, you may want to talk to a lawyer. The outcome here will depend on the context, etc. Was this allegedly disciplinary? Done by the football coach? Was your son injured?

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yudelka writes:

yes!!!
yu need to do somethinqq about that.

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BMelton writes:

Your concern is that the teacher grabbed your son's neck. There may be some circumstances where physical contact is appropriate if the child is in immediate danger; however, this does not appear to be the situation you describe.

By reporting the incident to the principal, you have taken the first step. Put a request in writing to the principal and the teacher that the teacher is not to grab or touch him. If the teacher continues to physically "assault" your son, you can file a police report and cite the previous incident. You can also provide the letter as documentation of your request.

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