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my 12 yr old son is looking at online porn and was caught once and took it away then gave it back and caught him again

In Topics: Children and the internet, Teen sexuality and dating, Discipline and behavior challenges
> 60 days ago

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Boys Town National Hotline
Mar 24, 2009
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What the Expert Says:

It can be very stressful for parents when they discover that their teen is looking at on-line porn. I'm sure you're very concerned that you've caught your son not once, but twice.

Especially at the age of 12, remember that a certain amount of curiosity is very normal for your son. It can feel a bit awkward, but try to sit down with your son and talk with him about normal sexual feelings for someone his age. If he would be more comfortable, ask a positive male role model to talk to him such as an uncle, father, or male school counselor. Emphasize to him that it's OK to be curious, but that the images he sees on the internet are not accurate of what all women look like. Let him know that it's not OK to continue to look at those images on a regular basis.

It's difficult to control the internet everywhere your son has access to it, but to ensure that he's not looking at on-line porn in your home keep the computer in a central location such as the kitchen and only allow him access to it at certain times like when you are cooking dinner. Don't forget that in addition to restricting his internet access that it is equally as important that you explain to him why it's not OK to look at porn. Sometimes parents get too focused on the punishment and don't take the time to talk through the problem. Give him some time to still be a curious kid, but at the same time teach him what it means to be a man.

Good Luck!
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