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13 year old boy with no friends. What should we do?
My 13 year old son is in eighth grade and has no friends. This situation has existed for years. He is a personable child who is a good student but simply never gets an invitation or a phone call. He is not on any team sports but does take Tennis lessons. He is really into technology and enjoys figuring out complex programs. He seems happy and gets along well with his younger 6 year old brother. Nevertheless, my husband and I feel he is missing out on a whole part of his life. We try to encourage him to invite people over but he really resists. What should we do???
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Parenting / Our Family, Friendships and peer relationships
> 60 days ago
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The suggestion I have is maybe use your son's interest as a tool to making friends. You might be able to suggest going to after-school computer programming clubs, groups, or classes. Maybe if he were to meet people who share a common interest with him, he may feel more inclined to open up and make friends. You might also try and see if he would be willing to take on a doubles partner for tennis. If he's up for it, it's a great way to build chemistry and camaraderie fairly quickly with another person. This could even lead up to consistently practicing against other doubles partners or at least being introduced to other tennis enthusiasts.
In any case, I think using your son's hobbies as a way to meet people might be the best bet. Who knows, maybe he meets a group of fellow computer programmers and they start the next billion-dollar social networking site....does that mean I'll get a cut? Haha, Good Luck!
In any case, I think using your son's hobbies as a way to meet people might be the best bet. Who knows, maybe he meets a group of fellow computer programmers and they start the next billion-dollar social networking site....does that mean I'll get a cut? Haha, Good Luck!
> 60 days ago
My co host Adam suggested he should get involved in extra curricular activities after school. he will meet people who have the same interest.
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> 60 days ago
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