I just found out that my 13 year old daughter is cutting herself
we just moved to a new city in september and it has been hard for us both in her dairy she said she misses her dad and the city where we are from when we asked why she wont say anything and when i try to talk to her about it she just changes the subject im a single mother and i have 2 other kids i just really dont know what to do
Thanks for taking the time to reach out for some help and guidance. Finding out that one of your children has been cutting can be a startling and upsetting discovery. This could be a confusing and emotional time right now, so you are definitely doing the right thing by reaching out for some help.
Struggling with the transition into a new city and school is something a lot of teens have difficulty with. However, cutting is an unhealthy and risky way to cope and express the feelings she has. Clearly these feelings are very strong for your daughter, the cutting only highlights that. As such, getting her in to work with a counselor would be a great way for her to learn new, healthy ways to cope with her feelings.
As her parent, it is important for you to continue providing her with care and concern, show her how important she is and how much you care about her through your words and actions. You can't expect yourself to be able to help her overcome cutting by yourself, which is why the counselor would be a great option. What you can expect from yourself is to put your daughter into a great position to conquer her cutting by continuing to a steady source of support and comfort.