When do 13 year old boys get interested in having female friends?

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DIGARBRY asks:

My son is very friendly. He has lot of friends but all of them are boys. When is appropriate for him to have more female friends?

In Topics: Teen issues, Friendships and peer relationships

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Allyn Anderson

Jul 22, 2010

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Boys become interested in girls at various ages. It really depends upon "who" your child is. Some are late bloomers and become interested in girls in their late teens.

I've found some books that you might find useful. Look over these at your local bookstore to see if these help:
1.Our Boys Speak: Adolescent Boys Write About Their Inner Lives
2.Everything Guide to Raising Adolescent Boys: An essential guide to bringing up happy, healthy boys in today's world (Everything: Parenting and Family)
3.Your Adolescent: Emotional, Behavioral, and Cognitive Development from Early Adolescence Through the Teen Years David Pruitt

Many young teenage boys like the series of books by Jerry Spinelli: Space Station Seventh Grade, Jason and Marceline, Maniac Magee. These fiction books deal with a variety of teenage issues.

Consider scheduling appointments with your child's pediatrician and with his school counselor. Both would have good developmental information to share and could discuss any concerns you might have.

Hope this helps to get you started in answering questions about your son.

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MM21 writes:

This is a very popular question among many parents, and students as well. Your question depends on the child.

Most likely, he atleast has feelings for other girls around him. If you are looking for female FRIENDS, it may take a while for him to develop with other peers, and start relationships through other friends. If you are looking for girlfriends, he is most likely interested already. He may not be showing it to you or any family members, however his peers probably well know who he has a crush on, or who he is dating. He may not entirely be sure of ground rules when it comes to these things.

Because he has many friends, he will soon have a girlfriend if he does not already, but he most likely isn't comfortable discussing the topic with parents and isn't yet positive if discipline will come with presenting the idea of dating.

Although the date is up to the parents, when he IS allowed to date, possibly try to bring it up subtly in a conversation, to let him know that it is okay, and not a matter that he will be teased about at home.

He will be finding female friends in no time! Best of luck!

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Houli writes:

I agree with the answers already provided. Here are a couple of other factors to consider:

1) You mention he has alot of male friends. At this age friends are so important, and if they are not interested publicly in girls, he may not express publicly if he is interested.

2) He may very well be interested but might be embarrassed if he told others, especially his parents.

All of this just goes with the territory of middle schoolers. He sounds like a great guy!

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