what do i do when my 13year old daughter won't go to school?
We are having problems getting her into school and it is proving to be very difficult as we have authorities involved and it is having no effect, She also has learning difficulties and has attachment disorder. We do not know what else to try as school is trying everything possible but her attitude to people and school is not good.
13 is a tough age even if everything is prefect. I'm sorry to hear that you daughter is having a more difficult time than most, but she is lucky to have you there to help and support her.
Can you give us a little more information about why she says she doesn't want to go to school? Is if because of her learning disabilities, a teacher, a bully, the classes? How is she in other situations such as going with you to run errands, church, grandparents' house? Does she put up the same kind of fight? How is she in social situations - with people she knows and those she doesn't know? Does she have any close friends?
I'm glad the school is working with you. Are they offering any help over the summer? Do they have a counseling program? It does sound like your daughter could benefit from professional counseling. You can also check with your health insurance company to see what is covered for her. Also, many communities have services for families that qualify.
You may also what her to have a physical. Since she is going through puberty, there could be an imbalance. Her doctor could run simple blood tests.
Also look for patterns. Keep a journal of her behavior. Is there something that is triggering her attitude about not going to school. It could be something in her diet, a particular time of the month or week, and event that is about to happen.
Keep the lines of communication open. She needs you.