I'm 14 and i have Asperger's, ADHD, bipolar disorder, and i am a habitual liar. I lie about the littlest things, good or bad. Does anyone know how i can stop lying once and for all? I've tried everything.
It's great that you are reaching out and are willing to take advice to stop lying! It shows that you have a good conscious and are not comfortable with continuing to lie. If you have a counselor or therapist, make sure you also talk to them about this since they know you and understand you on a more personal level.
Some lies are what can be classified as "polite lies." This type of lie is meant to protect another person from feeling bad. For example, if you are given a gift from a friend and your don't really like the item, most of us would say: "thank you, this is great!" rather than: "I really did not want this!" Of course with family members and people we know very well, we tend to be more honest! :-)
If you are not telling the truth to get out of a responsibility or a commitment, it is a different level of lying and one which you should watch out for. Lying is a bad habit and like other bad habits such as smoking or nail biting, you have to make the decision to just stop. Learn to think before you speak. Ask yourself is the statement or comment: 1) truthful, 2) helpful, and 3) kind. By putting those three words in your mind everyday, it might help guide you to stop and think before you speak and say something you may regret!
If you would like to speak with a counselor, please call our toll-free hotline, or e-mail us anytime. Also, check our our website for teens: www.yourlifeyourvoice.org
Take care and best wishes to you!
Cynthia, Crisis Counselor