QuietCutie asks:

My 14 y.o. daughter has been sick and out of school for a long time. She does not want to finish her schooling at her school but at home. What do I do?

she has been absent for two months, hospitalized, and then in a pshyciatric unit now she is refusing to return to school and only wants homeschooling...what do i do?
In Topics: Back to school, Homeschooling, Teen issues
> 60 days ago



Mar 31, 2010
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What the Expert Says:

This is an important question and deserves serious consideration. Your daughter is probably refusing to return to school for one or more of these reasons:

--she's overwhelmed of the work she's missed
--she's embarrassed about what other kids will say to her or about her
--she's afraid she'll have a relapse
--she's worried/insecure about being away from home

All of these are valid ways for her to be feeling, but they aren't necessarily a reason to home school her. Homeschooling is great if it's what you believe in philosophically or if a child truly can't go to school for physical or psychological reasons. However, your daughter needs to learn how to cope again with her life and you need to help her. Here are some steps to begin the process:

1. speak to your school to see what support they will offer (reduced course load, counseling, shortened day to begin). Be insistent and don't take 'No' for an answer. When it comes to getting services for your child, the squeaky wheel gets the grease. She'll likely qualify for a 504, so you'll be able to get support for her through that.
2. Consider offering her outside school counseling/therapy if you aren't already. Don't stop any treatment she is receiving
3. Help her connect with one or two old friends so she'll know people going back.
4. Remind her that you will support her throughout her re-entry into school and that you are really proud of her.

Dr. Susan Bartell
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