amberjanye asks:

My 14 yr old refuses to go to school. Advice?

my son is 14 and for the last 12 mts i have struggled to get him to go to school now with the start of this new term he just refuses to go, HELP.

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In Topics: Back to school, Teen issues
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Sep 17, 2010
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What the Expert Says:

After reading your reply to the answer from eliad, the situation with your son is serious enough for you to take more serious action. Your son needs to be in school, even if that means changing schools, or homeschooling. At 14 years old, NOT going to school is NOT an option!

It sounds like you have tried talking, listening and trying to understand your son. But, your son needs to know that you are not going to allow him to stay home and ignore his studies. Take away all recreational activities such as TV, video games, phone and computer. He needs to realize that he will have a great deal of homework to catch up on, and the sooner he starts working on it the better.

If your tough love approach continues to not motivate him, take him to the hospital or to a psychologist for a mental health evaluation. If he refuses to go, call the police to be an escort. You will be doing this because you love your son, but you also need some support.

If you would like to talk with a counselor, we are here 24 hours, every day for parents who are struggling with their teenagers. You can call our toll-free hotline at: 1-800-448-3000, or e-mail us at:
You don't have to go through this alone. We are here to help!

Cynthia, Counselor
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