How can we help our 18 year old daughter realize she made a mistake in running away to marry?

"What if your child did ran away and got married?  she's only 18, unexperienced to be outside while he's 24 and possessive?  How can we help her realize the mistake she just made and to help her return home to finish her education and prepare for a better future?  any suggestions? (it's been a month).  I'm desperate."

Asked by Hil in commenting on the article, "When Your Child Wants to Run Away":
In Topics: Parenting / Our Family, Teen issues
> 60 days ago



Boys Town National Hotline
May 3, 2010
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What the Expert Says:

Thank you for reaching out to!

We are sorry you are going through this difficult time with your daughter.  It can be very difficult to watch our older children make decisions we do not agree with or that we know are not in their best interests.   But if you can, try to focus on the fact that you have done what you could in raising her to be a good person. Even though you don’t agree with what your daughter is doing, it is important for you to not cut off ties with her during this time.  You want her to be able to feel she can come back to you in the event that something goes wrong in the relationship for example.  Let her know you love her and care about her, but that you don’t agree with the choices she is currently making.  

Your legal rights will depend on the state in which you live.  The most common legal age of majority is 18 years.  There are a few states where the age of majority is 19 years old, and Mississippi is set at 21 years old.  Some states link high school graduation to being able to be of the age of majority.  For a complete list and more information, please click on the following links:

Please know that our toll-free Hotline is available to parents and children of all ages, 24 hours, every day.  A trained and caring crisis counselor can talk with you more in depth about this situation or any other issue you may be having.  You can also give your daughter our number and our websites, just in case she may need someone to talk to.
Take care and best wishes to you.

Cynthia, Crisis Counselor
Boys Town National Hotline
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