How can I keep my 19 year old daughter from seeing her 25 year old abusive boyfriend?
I have a beautiful 19 year old daughter that lives at home. She is seeing this 25 year old man that verbally and physically abuses her. She has told us that he has pushed her and just recently slapped her across the face at a party in front of many other people. He was taken from the party and no one reported it. She said she would no longer see him but tonight my husband ran into them in a grocery store. He was talking to a co-worker and did not want to make a scene. If I would have been there it would have been different. She lies about where she is going and who she is with. I told her it will not get better. After verbal and slapping then comes punching and kicking and worse. She is too immature to understand this. I think of terrible things I want to do to him - but I have smaller children to take care of. I feel so angry all the time and don't know what to do. My husband wants to make her leave the house and I don't know if this is right thing to do. I is making things here at our home very stressful and my husband and I are loosing many nights of sleep. I want her to see a therapist - but she has no health insurance. I really need some advice. Please help!
First google counseling services in your community and see what may be available for free or for minimal fee. Next, get a lawyer to protect you and her. Go to the Legal Aid Society and ask about what your rights are. Then speak to a trusted person such as a clergy person if you are in a faith community. Talk with the police and find out about restraining orders against the abuser. Many state schools provide abuse/anger management classes. Check out what is available to your family.