Blended families are a little more difficult that nuclear families. I understand your concern and love for your daughter, but it's out of your control what happens when your daughter is in her father's care. If there is a separation agreement or the two of you have agreed on a visitation schedule, then when she is in his care, you can't control who she spends time with.

If you have any concerns, talk to your ex. You can even propose meeting his new girlfriend, if you want. Remember, this is the person that will be helping to care for your child when she is with her Dad, so if you plan a meeting, you would like it to be friendly.

I wish you the very best.

Kindest Regards,

Shirley Cress Dudley, MA LPC NCC FACMPE
Founder of The Blended and Step Family Resource Center