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My 24 yr old daughter has asperger's and no ambition at all what can I do to help her?
I've tried everything! She makes friends with the wrong type of people! Homeless,Abusive Boyfriends,People who use and abuse her! My house was broken into many times and jewellery etc stolen two different times all because of my daughter's poor choices.Now She is living with a boy in his 20's who is on Aish like her.He works but She can't even keep a job..This boy she knew from high school but has never lived with him or knows him well enough too.Her last prob,my window was smashed! Recently some creep said over the phone to her he was going to stab her if she didn't shut her mouth! I lost it! Grabbed the phone and let's just say it's not a prob anymore! This creep is one of her boyfriend's friends! He did nothing! Now they live in a bsmt suite 2 bdrm! He can't stand her snoring so they have sep bedrms.She always tells Me he calls her six times a day or checks her journals to see who she is talking too! My daughter is Spoiled,Lazy,won't even do the dishes,etc.She has poor hygiene even though she has been repeatedly taught! She won't try anything! On her own! She has Pdd funding and has had many workers ,but She refuses to try! She belongs in a group home but I'm always told She is not Severe enough! Well I disagree!She has a psychiatrist She will not see on a regular basis! Her iq when She was 10 was then borderline retarded! The Autism society won't help Me.Even though I contacted them asking for a support group for her and Myself.I don't know what More I can do!??
In Topics: Special needs, Autism & Aspergers Syndrome
> 60 days ago

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lkauffman
Nov 18, 2010
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What the Expert Says:

It sounds like you and your daughter have been through a great deal, and I am very sorry to hear that your daughter continues to struggle and does not have all of the support she needs. As you have discovered, the level of care and support for individuals with developmental disabilities over the age of 18 is seriously lacking, and I hope that this problem will be addressed soon.

I can't make recommendations on your daughter's long-term living situation because I have not had an opportunity to evaluate her, but it does sound as though she needs more support than she is receiving. Given that she cannot make good choices, and she has difficulty taking care of herself, she likely requires more supervision.

I suggest that you make an extensive list of all of the incidents over the last six months that point to her inability to function independently at this time. Schedule an appointment with her case manager and present your list to him/her. Let the case manager know that you look forward to collaborating on a new solution for your daughter. You can say that you don't know what her needs will be two years from now, but you have come to recognize that she currently needs a higher level of care.

In the meantime, I invite you to continue your research on support groups for you (and your daughter) and for additional services. Autism Speaks has a list of resources for individuals on the Autism spectrum who are over the age of 18: http://www.autismspeaks.org/community/resources/adults.php. Also, you may have some luck contacting the non-profit, Aging with Autism: http://www.agingwithautism.org/.

Good luck!


Warm regards,

Laura Kauffman, Ph.D.
Licensed Psychologist
Education.com JustAsk Expert
http://www.drlaurakauffman.com/

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