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Leyleyrich
Leyleyrich asks:
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My 3 1/2 year old is having difficulty with transitions at school and is not responding to discipline.  What can I do to help him?

In Topics: School and Academics, Discipline and behavior challenges
> 60 days ago

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Hand in Hand
Jun 20, 2013
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What the Expert Says:

Dear Leyleyrich,

When a child is unable to cooperate and be flexible moving thru their day, the first thing I suggest is establishing a closer connection with him. Children thrive on connection with their parents and caregivers. Your son's need for a sense of connection will remain strong and constant through his childhood. This sense of safety and connection allow children to learn at a great rate, to experiment and play fully, to enjoy themselves and others without reservation, and to trust in the goodness of the people they know. This is also what makes a child able to be easy-going and to move through the transitions of the day with confidence.

You'll want to begin by starting a daily Special Time with your son, ideally for at least ten minutes every day before he goes to school. Often, Special Time encourages a child to try to express feelings that they need to offload. This reduces stress and helps the child build flexibility and resilience.

These articles will help you get more ideas to ease your son's transitions and help him respond cooperatively with his caregivers.

Let us know how it's going,

Julianne Idleman
Hand in Hand Parenting
handinhandparenting.org

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Safioleas
Safioleas writes:
Perhaps your child is not happy at this school or is too young for school?  Some children need a little extra time, and although it is popular to put children into 'socializing' environments once they are out of diapers, it may not necessarily be what your child needs.  Try taking him/her out of school and waiting another six months.  It's amazing how much they mature in a short amount of time.  You want to avoid your child developing a negative outlook toward education.

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lynellen
lynellen writes:
I am so glad you are seeking help for your child.  I am wondering if there may be sensory overload at school.  Some children over respond to noises, visual, smells, touch which can make transitions difficult since they find security through "sameness".  There is lots of information in a book Sensational Kids by Lucy Jane Miller and you may want to look at the www.sensory-processing-disorder.com check list to see if it may help you decide the next step.
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