kashyapmamt... asks:

How can I help my 3 year old to make her interested in writing?

Hi. My daughter is 3 years 11 months old. She is in nursery-India. Within a two month span her school started with introduction of standing line, sleeping lines, Letter L,H, T, F, I etc with crayons. She doesn't hold crayons properly so cannot write properly. Even if she has to trace dotted lines she is not doing it. I have observed that many other children of her age in her class are doing well. I feel very bad about this. I even scolded her once and was angry of her, telling her she is not doing well and doing very very badly. I know I was very wrong on my part. Is my daughter a slow learner? Now if I ask her to write now she shows her unwillingness to write. How can I improve the situation now? How will she enjoy and start writing? Please guide me. Otherwise, my child is intelligent and can pick up knowledge very well. she even speaks 1 to 20 rightly and 1-100 with some mistakes. I always taught her by fun way method, I was really tensed. Please help me to get out of this situation.
In Topics: Helping my child with writing
In Topics: Helping my child with writing, Helping my child with school work and home work
> 60 days ago



Apr 13, 2013
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What the Expert Says:

You are correct that scolding her is not going to work. But this is correctible.
children will avoid doing things that have brought them a negative response.
I will give you a tip, but first, it is important to remind you that children learn at different rates, and have different learning styles. Three years is VERY young, and there is lots of time for your child to learn and love writing. Here are three tips.

1. Tell her that you are sorry you got angry at her and that you would like to write something with her. Use the writing tools to let her scribble, draw, do a letter--anything she wants to do. At this age, just getting comfortable is the best thing to help her do.

2. You do something on your own page and let her know how much YOU like doing whatever you are doing. Do anything you want to and let her see your pleasure at doing it WITH her. She may be a little resistant at first, but gentleness is the key.
If she won't participate just let her watch you do your "writing." Remember, it does not have to be words. She can just HOLD the crayon while you draw or write.
Modeling is the key.

3. If she gets upset when she tries doing her own "writing," tell her it is only a "happy accident," and she can make it into something else or try another page.
The key is to keep it positive with a no-shaming approach.

Good luck. She sounds very smart and she will get there. Just by asking this question you are already out of this situation.

Let me know how it goes.
Bette Freedson, LICSW, LCSW, CGP
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