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Does my 3 year old sister hate me or is she just spoiled?
My sister is 3 years old. The thing is its been awhile that she has had bad temper with me and only me. I have another sister that is 17 years old and the majority of the time is treated better than me. I am 18 years old and sometimes I feel like I'm fighting with a teenager! If my mom picks me up after school, she will look at me and tell me "Don't look at me" or "Stop!" consistently. Sometimes I wont do anything. But it just really drives me crazy. My mom gives her more discipline than my stepdad. But its very hard when she is told no about something and she runs to my stepdad and he allows her to get away with things. MY stepmom does tell him that she is the way she is because he spoils her. Bt he doesn't see it. He tells everyone "She is my baby and if they don't like it, I'm sorry". Its sad that when I look at her she is this beautiful little girl but then once her mouth opens it fades away. Today we went to the mall to get an icecream. As I was telling the cashier what I wanted I accidently touched her balloon because she was behind me and threw a fit. I hope that my mom can get this behavior to stop. Maybe.
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Teen issues, Discipline and behavior challenges, Parenting siblings
> 60 days ago
What the Expert Says:
Additional Answers (2)
3 year olds are very difficult at times and moody (from what you can see!). Please be patient. I love that you're so concerned about your little sibling. Most teens walk away and dismiss little people who are bothersome. Children this age are just growing into their newfound independence and are moody, opinionated and defiant. Please know that this shall pass. Try to ignore poor behavior and when you need to address her, state your feelings and what you see. When she's nice to you say, "It feels good to me when you're kind. Thank you." When we are empathic to young kids, they tend to be less frought and angry. Just let her go through this stage and tell her you'd like to be with her but when she's kind and not hurting your feelings. When she's being appropriate smile at her and hug her, again reinforce the message, "It feels so good to be with you when your happy and kind."
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> 60 days ago
I agree with the previous answer. Kids go through phases as they grow and learn. Help her grow out of this phase by encouraging good behavior, avoiding situations that you know she will respond poorly to and make sure you try to understand her situation. Often kids of this age get easily frustrated. They are trying to become independent, but don't know how yet. Don't forget to set a good example of how to treat others. Be aware of what behavior you are showing her and understand how she might interpret your behavior. Remember, she is 3; she doesn't understand why things happen as they do. Be part of the solution and she will grow up to love and appreciate you.
> 60 days ago
