Anonymous asks:

3 yr old calling mom's fiance daddy

The real daddy has been in jail for two years awaiting trial on charges brought by the 3 yrs old mom when the dad was trying to break up with her.  The trial was conducted in late September and the real dad was found innocent of all charges and released.  The real dad now has supervised visitation 2 days per work and plans on being an active part of his son's life and is being re introduced as "Daddy" to his son.

The mom's fiance has been around the little boy for 15 - 16 months and calls the fiance Daddy.

The mom and real dad do not talk or see each other due to a restraining order filed by the mom 7 months ago while the dad was still in jail.

Any advice on how to handle in the best interest of the little boy is appreciated.
In Topics: Blended families
> 60 days ago



Dec 10, 2010
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What the Expert Says:

I know the biological dad may be concerned about his son calling his ex-wife’s fiancé “daddy”- but don’t worry. Little children are very flexible and logically need to have a mommy and a daddy in their home. The 3 year old won’t have a problem calling both “daddy.”  It should be explained to him, though, that although both men love him very much, his real daddy, the one who was there when he was born and is related to him is his biological dad.

Please tell the biological dad not to worry. His son will always be his son. I encourage him to rebuild a relationship with his son and spend quality time with him.  He could refer to the other man as “the daddy in mom’s house” so his son could hear the difference between the two men.

Kindest Regards,

Shirley Cress Dudley, MA LPC NCC
Blended and Step Family Expert
Director of The Blended and Step Family Resource Center

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