When our children misbehave in public it can be so embarrassing! We feel that everyone is not only watching us, but judging our parenting skills too. Because we’re embarrassed our reaction is often greater than it would be if the same behavior occurred at home.
In fact, many parents spend most of their time reacting to their children’s behavior, often focusing simply on the negative things their kids do. We encourage you to be proactive when you teach by anticipating what your child will likely do in a situation and teach a more appropriate behavior before that situation occurs again.
Take a situation where a small child disobeys in public. Using a proactive approach the parent would;
1.) Show and tell the positive behavior. (Clearly let her know what you want her to do.)
2.) Practice. (Make it fun and brief, do it often, by pretending or playing games)
3.) Show Approval. (Use words of praise, encouragement, hugs, or high-fives for her efforts to practice.)
If you spend more time and energy proactively teaching what you want your child
“to do” in those situations, you will spend less time correcting the misbehaviors.