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My 5 y/o loved school for the first 4 months, now she refuses to go.  No overt bullying that we can tell.  How can I get her to return to school?

My daughter says that she is bored, school is too long, she gets hungry, she knows everything they are teaching, and she simply doesn't want to go.  She loved school at first.  The only thing we know happened is that 2 boys made fun of her on one day.  But she says that isn't why she doesn't want to return.  She is even crying at 7 the night before school.  This morning she refused to even get dressed and eat breakfast.  Never made it out of the front door.
In Topics: School and Academics, Motivation and achievement at school, Bullying and teasing
> 60 days ago



Dec 22, 2011
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What the Expert Says:

Hello and thank you for writing!

Whenever there is a radical change in school or home behavior then for me this is a signal for something is not "quite right" and needs immediate attention.  I would have a talk with your daughter's teachers, guidance counselor and perhaps consult with the School Psychologist in order to try and get additional perspectives on what is happening in school. However, keep in mind that kids who bully can do so covertly and may not be "known" to adults as bullies. The guidance counselor and psychologist should be able to help your daughter with strategies, if this is the case. If this is not the case, then they can also help with school avoidance issues.

For more information on recognizing signs of bullying, school avoidance and more I would start at these websites (in addition to education.com).


Good luck!

Louise Sattler, Psychologist

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