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My 5 y/o loved school for the first 4 months, now she refuses to go.  No overt bullying that we can tell.  How can I get her to return to school?

My daughter says that she is bored, school is too long, she gets hungry, she knows everything they are teaching, and she simply doesn't want to go.  She loved school at first.  The only thing we know happened is that 2 boys made fun of her on one day.  But she says that isn't why she doesn't want to return.  She is even crying at 7 the night before school.  This morning she refused to even get dressed and eat breakfast.  Never made it out of the front door.
In Topics: School and Academics, Motivation and achievement at school, Bullying and teasing
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Louiseasl
Dec 22, 2011
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What the Expert Says:

Hello and thank you for writing!

Whenever there is a radical change in school or home behavior then for me this is a signal for something is not "quite right" and needs immediate attention.  I would have a talk with your daughter's teachers, guidance counselor and perhaps consult with the School Psychologist in order to try and get additional perspectives on what is happening in school. However, keep in mind that kids who bully can do so covertly and may not be "known" to adults as bullies. The guidance counselor and psychologist should be able to help your daughter with strategies, if this is the case. If this is not the case, then they can also help with school avoidance issues.

For more information on recognizing signs of bullying, school avoidance and more I would start at these websites (in addition to education.com).

http://www.micheleborba.com/Pages/ArtBMI03.htm
http://blog.anniefox.com/tag/bullying/
http://www.jaylenschallenge.org
http://www.nasponline.org/resources/factsheets/bullying_fs.aspx

Good luck!

Louise Sattler, Psychologist

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petchdee
petchdee writes:
same with my daughter

I  insist to send her to go to school        not  in  uniform dress

and  tell her  that   I  will  pick up  her  in  time  and  encourage  her  

that  her friend  only  want to play with  her  

Psychaitrist  suggest  that   she  stress  fom  some  situation in school

and  then  feel  saparation anxiety  that  in normal  development in this  age group
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petchdee
petchdee writes:
same with my daughter

I  insist to send her to go to school        not  in  uniform dress

and  tell her  that   I  will  pick up  her  in  time  and  encourage  her  

that  her friend  only  want to play with  her  

Psychaitrist  suggest  that   she  stress  fom  some  situation in school

and  then  feel  saparation anxiety  that  in normal  development in this  age group
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JessicaGates
JessicaGates writes:
My son had many of the same reasons for not liking school-boredom, hunger, long day etc. We made the personal choice to homeschool and I can now see the difference in him, he loves to be challenged and a public classroom is a challenge for those who catch on quickly. I know this is not for everyone, but perhaps a parent /teacher meeting is due? Perhaps, her teacher can provide extra challenges/jobs to keep her engaged....
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jask
jask writes:
I think that you should talk to her teacher and find out more.  How she is doing in the class and how she interacts with other kids?  
I will suggest that you should try to become friends with couple of moms in the class and have play dates with their kids so she feels more comfortable in the class and excited about going next day and meeting her friends.
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