threekids asks:

How can I help my 5th grade daughter to make new friends?

My daughter has always been in the same class with her
BF since 1st grade, now this year they are in different classrooms. She is having a tough time on trying to have conversation with the other girls any suggestions?
In Topics: Self esteem and identity, Bullying and teasing, Friendships and peer relationships
> 60 days ago



Boys Town National Hotline
Oct 1, 2010
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What the Expert Says:

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It is great that your daughter has had a best friend since Kindergarten. It shows that she is able to form a close bond and is a loyal friend. In general, some people are more introverted and are comfortable with having one or two close friends for their entire life. People who are more extroverted like to have several good friends and they are comfortable with making new friends.

Even though it may be a tough transition for your daughter this year, it will be good preparation for when she attends middle school in the 6th or 7th grade, when she will have classes with different kids each class period.

Encourage your daughter to make new friends by suggesting she start the conversation with another girl by giving a compliment such as: "I like your shirt!" or "That was a great answer!" Encourage your daughter to ask the girls questions about themselves like: "What did you do over the weekend?" or "Where did you get those cool shoes?"

Suggest your daughter invite a new friend over after school or over for dinner some night. She could also invite her best friend and they could all get to know one another. Continue to give your daughter praise for reaching out to others but don't push her to make new friends. Over time she will adapt.

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Take care and best wishes to you and your daughter!


Cynthia, Crisis Counselor
Boys Town National Hotline

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