It is great that your son is a star student and is getting good grades! Fifth grade can be a tough year for many students as the teachers prepare them for the rigors of middle school. It is at this age when the parents can take on more of the role as consultant and the child becomes a more independent learner.
Your son should not be lying about doing his homework, lying is never a good thing. But do you think it is possible that it is his way of saying he wants to be more in charge and feels he does not need as much prompting to do his homework? Since he is a good student give him the benefit of the doubt and stop asking about his homework. Trust that he knows what needs to be done and that he will do it. But also let him know that you will not allow him to wait until Sunday night at 9:00pm to start working on it! He should know that there is a certain time of the day or evening which is best for him to work on his school work.
If you see that his grades are continuing to be good and he is not missing any work, he is ready to be independent. On the other hand, if his grades go down and he forgets to hand in his work, you will know that he is not ready and will need you to set up a more structured routine for him to complete his work. You can always ask his teacher for more advice and get her insight on how he functions in the classroom.
Please feel free to call or e-mail our Hotline with any parenting concerns. We are here 24 hours, 7 days a week to listen and to help. We also have a website for parents: www.parenting.org
Take care and best wishes to you and your son!
Cynthia, Crisis Counselor
Boys Town National Hotline