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Tishalulle
Tishalulle asks:
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How do I help my 6 year old from acting out in class?

My 6 year old son has been having a very hard time this whole school year. He gets frustrated and throws temper tantrums in class. His teacher has even told him he was behaving like a 3 year old. I know that there is only so much that I can do, being that I'm not at school with him. But Im worried that next year in 1st grade he will act out in the same ways and it will affect his education, his  teacher has said that he will not be passed onto 2nd grade if he doesn't change his reactions to things. Any tips or tricks or advice on ways to talk with him at home would be GREATLY APPRECIATED. He does have some tantrums at home but I just ignore them and talk to him when he has calmed down about what he was angry about. But for the most part home is pretty easy going and he reacts fine to not getting his way.
In Topics: School and Academics, Discipline and behavior challenges
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lkauffman
Jun 1, 2010
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What the Expert Says:

It must be very difficult to hear that your son is struggling at school. As a parent, you want him to be happy and thrive in the classroom, not stressed and suffering.

There are a variety of reasons why your son might be having a difficult time and understanding the source of his pain would help to develop an intervention plan. Therefore, I suggest that you make an effort to request a special education evaluation before school ends, during the summer, or early in the fall.

Ideally, your request will lead to a meeting (sometimes called a student study team or SST) in which you and the school staff will develop a plan for assessing your son's learning and behavior. The possibility exists that he has some significant learning issues that lead to frustration in the classroom and a reduced ability to cope. He may be more prone to tantrums because he is overwhelmed with some of the work.

Alternatively, your son may need certain behavioral supports in the classroom that can assist him in managing the stress of being in class. A behavioral analysis would be appropriate as part of the evaluation. The behavioral analysis would essentially "dissect" his tantrums to understand what typically happens before, during and after each incident. Teachers and administrators can then develop a more informed plan for how to support him.

I have included a link below to a sample letter requesting an evaluation. I have also included a link to an article about different kinds of positive behavior management strategies used in classrooms. Reading the behavior management article will give you some ideas to bring to the meeting as suggestions for how your son's teacher next year can help him.

As for what to say to your son, I think you can let him know that you understand that school is stressful, and you are going to work with the school to better support him in class. Ask him if he has any ideas to make the day go smoother. For instance, some students need a quiet place in the classroom where they can go when they feel themselves getting overwhelmed. They can go there without asking permission, and their teacher knows that they are having a tough time and need a moment to gain their composure. He might have some good ideas to make things go smoother in the classroom.

Kind regards,

Laura Kauffman, Ph.D.
Licensed Child Psychologist
JustAsk Expert
www.drlaurakauffman.com
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needhelpmom80
needhelpmom80 writes:
Tishalulle,

My 6 yr old is doing pretty much what your son is going at school. My son turned 6 in September and is now in 1st grade. The teachers keep telling me that it may just be a "maturity" problem but things have not gotten any better with time. The tantrums continue and not appropriate for his age. When he gets frustrated in school he start crying throws himself on the floor and them crawls under the table, he has done this a few time. When it comes to test time he panics and scribbles all over the paper with a crayon and says he "hates test!". I am at my wits end. I have tried taking away, point systems, earning treats and many other tactics suggested to me. Yesterday when I picked him up from school he had 3 different notes on 3 difference issues...in ONE DAY. I asked him very calmly to explain what happened and all he could say while crying was " I can't stop being bad mama" =( this broke my heart but at the same time I don't know if he means it or is just trying to get out of it. I hate seeing him suffer in school and seeing his self esteem go down little by little. I don't know what to do to help him. I have him schedule to see a psychologist for an evaluation ( ADD/ADHD and other possible behavior or learning disabilities...even the questions of autism) I am not sure if I am doing the right thing but at this point I am willing to try anything. I want to help him and I want to see him smile when he comes home
=(  Like your son, my son is easy going at home, what do I do?

Do you or anyone reading this have any advice? (being that you seem to be in the same situation) I am desperate to help him.
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Mamacita68
Mamacita68 writes:
i have a friend with same issue, except less of tantrum, more of speaking out in class without raising hand, bored, very smart, and she is very worried.  i hope all went well with your son, please keep us posted.
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