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What do you tell a 6 year old child when they ask why Santa brought the neighbors an extremely excessive amount of toys? (every holiday included)

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dgraab
Feb 16, 2010
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Education.com offers a resource center you might peruse to find tips for talking with young children about difficult topics:
http://www.education.com/topic/parent-child-communication/

I think it's also important to remember that every family has its own traditions for celebrating holidays. Unfortunately, you can't control how the family next door is choosing to celebrate Christmas and the Santa tradition. If you're concerned about your children being exposed at your neighbor's house to traditions you don't approve of (such as a volume of gift giving that you think is "extremely excessive"), you may have to consider not allowing your children to be at that home, and instead host play dates with those children at your home.

Alternatively, you might alter your Santa story to explain or accommodate the inevitable inequity of gift delivery (not every home across the world gets the same volume of presents from Santa). One possible story adaptation might include negotiations/discussions between Santa and a child's parents, to ensure that the quantity of gift giving matches the values that the parents wishes to instill in their children (such as focusing on giving during the holidays, rather than receiving; or maintaining order in the home and encouraging imagination by keeping toys and electronics to a minimum, etc.). Hopefully others will have some additional creative suggestions for you too, if this is the approach you choose for handling the inequity.

Good luck -- I hope these suggestions are helpful to you.

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Catskill
Catskill writes:
You tell your child the truth -- that Santa brings different gifts to different children every year.  (You might add, as God gives us all different gifts).  Then, you can talk about how the spirit of Christmas is about giving, not receiving. Minimize the idea of the number of toys;  your child will soon forget about this.  For yourself, stop resenting your neighbors and judging their gift-giving ("excessive").  Focus on the positive Christmas experiences you are creating for your family and you will be much happier.
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curious4abry
curious4abry writes:
Thank you "Catskill" for your 'insight'....My three children have not noticed nor inquired about the, yes...extremely excessive and embarrassing gift giving next door.  We volunteer and donate every Christmas and throughout the year. But it's only a matter of time before they notice the pictures hanging around the house of these very insecure people of the 50+ gifts for each of their two unappriciative kids. I do appriciate you trying to help others...
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