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dahily
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My 6 year old daughter cries a lot lately

My 6 year old has been crying in school at least 3 days out of 5 for the past 3 weeks. Nothing has changed in her life that I can think of to cause this behavior. This morning she told me she did not wanted to go to school and she cried all morning. She has been taking Karate lessons for a year now which I thought she enjoyed very much... the past 4 classes she has refused to take the class and gotten so upset that she actually vomited. I don't know what to do with her right now. I have tried talking to her, sending her to her room when I can't take it anymore....please help....i know she is a very sensitive girl but this is getting out of hand now. she was crying yesterday at lunch time because I was not there, she knows I work full time and I'm never there at lunch time so I don't know where this is coming from..I don't understand what is happening with her. Please help!!!
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What the Expert Says:

Thank you so much for taking the time to open up about your parenting question. Reaching out for support and guidance is always an amazing step to take when you feel confused or bewildered by a child's behaviors. It might not feel like it right now, but you are certainly doing a great thing to help your daughter confront and overcome this difficult time.

Have you spoken with your daughter to rule out the possibility that she is being bullied at school? Being picked on can often make a child feel lonely, unwanted, and isolated. We aren't saying this is the cause of her sudden change in behaviors, but it is definitely worth looking into. Also, addressing whether or not she has been inappropriately engaged by any peers or adults in her life is also worth looking into. Don't be alarmed, as this is just a precaution. Asking her, "Sweetie, has anybody been doing anything to make you feel uncomfortable? Have they touched you in ways that you didn't feel comfortable with?" Ruling out possible causes will help narrow things down a bit.

Have you taken your daughter to speak with a counselor or pediatrician? Often times the best form of parenting is seeking out services to get treatment when a child's behaviors are outside of your parental capability. There is nothing wrong with reaching out for help, as families do it every single day. If there are no external causes for her behaviors, then there may very well be internal factors which are currently playing a role. A counselor or pediatrician could help identify these underlying causes.

Hopefully you find these suggestions to be helpful and give you some steps to consider taking as you move forward to help your daughter right now.

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deebow
deebow writes:
Hi dahily, I feel so sorry for you. I am hoping to help. I am 54 years old and as a child I cried so much in the first grade that I would vomit also. I actually was held back because I did not learn anything. My poor mother and father did not know what to do. I believe it was difficult to leave all the fun behind and had to learn to read and write, I wanted to continue the fun things in life, I really believe I was depressed, but of course back then and now things were different, there was no counseling. I believe she will be OK, if you include some fun activities that you know she loves, be a good girl and do not cry because after school and after your home work we are going to do .... Also let her know what plans are for the weekend something cheerful for her to look forward to. If  she cries still plan fun for her. I was OK Friday and the weekend there was no school, but Sunday I became depressed knowing I had to go to school, watch her moods. The following year I was ok, but even today I still feel so bad for causing everyone to be upset with me. I really believe I was depressed. In addition my second year of high school I cried, but being older I hid it. I was able to overcome that depression by my self, looking forward to positive things. If this does not help I would suggest counseling, I believe no medication would be needed, just some positive fun counseling. I pray that she stops crying. It still bothers me today, that is how I ran into your question. Good Luck P.S. Beyond those crying sad days I was a happy teenager and today I am very happy adult, she will be ok
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iwho
iwho writes:
Go to Love and Logic's website for information. Or call them.
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sdug
sdug writes:
you could try having her color a pic of how she feels and do it together  you make one on how you feel and then have her do one on how she feels . good luck      or maby try having her talk to somebody like a aunt or some she trusts maby she is scared or embarrassed to talk to you about it .
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ahuja-ca writes:
I feel this child is very insecure.  I suggest make her very comfortable and spend more time by talking to her that she needs to be by herself when she is in school.  She is going to learn to write, read and more and mommy will come back to get her.  This child needs lot of assurance that mom won't go away for long time.
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