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7 year old boy is very short tempered. What to do to calm him down?

my friend's son is 7 year old. He and my son are close friends.He is a good boy.but very short temepred. i talked to mum,we discussed about this,but we both donot know how to handle this.few weeks ago,when mum and i were waiting to pick his another brother from school(for hardly 3 mins)and then we suppossed to go to farm.he didn't want to wait and he was stamping his feet and told the mum that i want to go farm now.not after 3 mins. when mum said wait for few mins,he slept on the road and cried and screemed.yesterday he came to my house,my son and he fought for key ring. and when i said if you both fight for one thing,both won't have that thing.he cried and screemed and told me that he is going out as i have annoyed him.i ran after him and bribe him and later i told mum,mum said he is short temper and we both discussed ,what should she can do to calm him down.and mum said because of him,she doesn't want to punish the other boy by not taking him to farm .can anybody help us how to control him.

my son is not an angel,but i haven't seen him stamping the feet or sleep on the floor.
In Topics: My child's growth and development, Discipline and behavior challenges
> 60 days ago



May 13, 2010
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What the Expert Says:

Sounds like the 7-year-old boy has severe temper tantrums.  

Temper Tantrums (TTs) are common in toddlers.  They are a toddler’s way of expressing anger and frustration. They may range from whining, complaining, yelling, pounding, or other violent displays. About 50-80% of 2-3 year old children have TTs at least once a week, and about 20% have them daily. Over 50% of 2 year old children will continue to have TTs at age of 3.

Tantrums result from a child’s inability to express his/her feelings, wants, and dislikes. When the frustration builds up, an emotional outburst is born. In older children, TTs might be a learned behavior that is reinforced by parents.

A child’s temperament plays an important role in the frequency and intensity of TTs. For example, intense children have a tendency to express their feelings dramatically, and persistent children are more likely to have prolonged TTs. In addition, children who have irregular sleeping/feeding patterns might be more prone to frustration and thus TTs.

The environment in which a child lives might attribute to his/her frustrations. Children living in crowded conditions with limited access to the outside might be more stressed out, thus frustrated, less tolerant, and more demanding than usual.

The best approach to TT management is to ignore them. Do not let your child get her way after a tantrum because that will reinforce the behavior. You can prevent TTs by using consistent discipline and common sense demands and restrictions.

If you are concerned about a child’s TTs, your child is older than four or younger than one, TTs occur three times a day or more, last for longer than 15 minutes, are accompanied by aggressive behaviors towards people and animals, or result in property damage, talk to your health care provider.

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