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Kimberly44
Kimberly44 asks:
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What do you do when my 7 year old is being made fun of by her best friend?

My daughter has a habit of bringing her hands up to her chin in a clasp sought of hold. She does this often and has been teased before because of this. My daughter is a good girl and, as far as I know, does not tease other kids about their differences or their habits. My first reaction is to talk to the mother of this child and tell her that I don't like what her child is doing but I don't know if this will cause more problems.
In Topics: Bullying and teasing
> 60 days ago

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Oct 22, 2009
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What the Expert Says:

It is so hard not to rise to the defense when our children have their feelings hurt.  At age 7 she still seems like your baby and needs your protection.  She does need your protection and guidance because this is only the first of many times throughout her life that others will tease her for one thing or another.

We would like to be able to protect our children from all bad things in their lives but the best we can do as parents is to teach them a way to handle those situations when they occur to keep themselves safe.

Teach your daughter some things she can say and do when others tease her that will not make her a target for teasing.  Let her know why she should handle teasing in the way you have described and have her actually practice it.  You can pretend you are one of the students in her class and say something that you think they might say.  Have her respond in the way in which you have taught her.  Be sure to reward her for practicing successfully.

If this habit of your daughters’ is something that will cause her peers to mock or make fun of her, help her change it.  Teach her what to do with her hands that will not be so obvious to others.  Monitor her doing that around home.  Keep track of the number of times that she uses the old habit and how often she uses the new technique that you have taught her.  Strive to reduce the old habit and increase the new.  Set some short term goals so she can feel success along the way to eliminating the old habit completely.

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Nicole780
Nicole780 writes:
You should go talk your daughters teacher if you know the parents name or phone number so you can talk to them or send a note to the teacher to the students parent and make it seem like it"s like from the teacher . Or you could see if the teacher will let you talk to her parent.
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Vaso
Vaso writes:
Maybe your little girl needs to tell her "best friend" that friends accept their friends for who they are and not make fun of them. Your child needs to know that also, so her feelings don't get hurt all the time. It really is not a big deal that she holds up her hands on her chin...there are so many other things that kids get teassed about...she shoudn't be afraid to express herself.
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hopefulness
hopefulness writes:
It can't be a best friend if they are maken funny of her. She needs to find another friend what kind of friend make fun of her on friend
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Nicolette12
Nicolette12 writes:
I suggest you talk to the teacher about this before approaching the child's parent, unless you know the parents well. Have your daughter talk to her friend that she hurts her feelings, since they are good friend maybe easier.  A good place to start is to coach your child to defend themselves because we can't always be there to protect them.
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lizziebell
lizziebell writes:
i thik you should serously talk to the parents
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DELFELD
DELFELD writes:
you should talk to the school principle  if you do not  this will be a  on going relashinship next year and well there might be a big big big big big big big big big big big big big big big big big big big big big  big problem about this
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ZULEYMA
ZULEYMA writes:
first of all this is not a friend ... and you should know that ,,, when other kid or kids is bullying or making fun of your kids ..it not right and it should be dis-guess with the other parents .. that  period in fact .. dont wait  because the longer you do the more worse it gets.. then you kids will withdrew from you or others ..
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