Anonymous asks:

Is 8 years old too old to be extremely attached to a stuffed animal?

For about two years, our 8 year old daughter has been carrying around a stuffed bear (his name is Furry). She doesn't take it to school but does bring it with our family when we go to the store, restaurants, public events, etc. She even says she's married to him! At first we thought this attachment was cute (even funny at times), but now we're starting to wonder: is this healthy behavior given her age? Should we start to 'wean' her off of Furry, and if so, how?! She cries when she can't find him, and gets angry sometimes if we don't address him, include him in family activities, or refer to him as a family member! At what age to children naturally outgrow such attachments?
In Topics: My child's growth and development, Parenting / Our Family
> 60 days ago



Jun 3, 2010
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What the Expert Says:

Hello and thank you for writing to JustAsk,

Having a comfort object, such as Furry, is not too unusual for an eight year old, especially if the child is a bit immature for his or her age.  However, your description of the situation leads me to believe that your daughter may need to discuss her attachment with Furry with a school guidance counselor or someone who can assess the situation "up close".  Also, you did not state if she had classmates or neighborhood friends that she engages with on a regular basis and this information will be important to share with any school counselor that you may talk with about the matter.

I know that my own child attached herself to a stuffed Disney doll until her mid- elementary years. We too were concerned, however, the "doll" eventually was left at home more and more until it was "shelved" towards the end of her fourth grade year.

Good luck!

Louise Masin Sattler, NCSP
Nationally Certified School Psychologist
Host of Learning and Laughter with Louise!  (

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