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how can i make my 8 years son respect and love me? and teach that time is very precious? lying is a bad habit

In Topics: Discipline and behavior challenges
> 60 days ago

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Boys Town National Hotline
Mar 28, 2012
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What the Expert Says:

One of the best ways to gain respect and love from your child is to provide him with respect and love yourself.  This involves and incredible amount of patience with him and with yourself.  Being lied to is a difficult thing to face and when it comes up you need to address it immediately and openly, explaining why it is inappropriate behavior and then following through with previously expressed consequences regarding this action.  Sometimes parents will get so upset that they will just say things like "because I said so" or "I am the parent" and while these are legitimate arguements, it doesn't help the child learn about why the choices they make are harmful.  If he continues to lie, you don't have to go through the "why is lying wrong" lecture everytime either.  Maybe by providing a book or other activity that can help enforce your message could be his immediate consequence of lying.  This will give him time to reflect and save you from having to take a lot of time with it.

Also turn to other people who may be able to help you share in this lesson. Talk to other relatives, siblings, and maybe even the teacher at school and if you all send the same positive messages about why lying is a harmful choice and enforce the proper consequences, there is a greater chance the message will be heard and understood.  

We wish you well and if you ever need to talk, please call the hotline below!  We are available 24 hours a day!

Counselor, Dominic
Boys Town National Hotline-A resource for parents and teens
1-800-448-3000
www.parenting.org

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